Railway Tracks Distance and Marriage

The Distance between two railway tracks is 143.5 cms. What a absurd measurement. Why couldn’t it be a good round figure like 150 cms. The reason of the measurement being absurd is due to the fact that when they first building railway tracks they used the same tools which was used for making horse drawn carriages. And the reason for that absurd measurement is because the road the horse carriages used to travel was 143.5 cms. So who decided this distance. On further research you will know that the measurement of 143.5 cms was decided by  our great road builders the Romans. The reason is that during Roman times the carriage was driven by two horses and when they put two horses side by side the distance was 143.5 cms. So the measurement remained.

The distance between the tracks on which our state of the art trains run now has been determined by Romans. So wherever people went to build railroads , it never occurred to them that the measurement should be changed. This even effected our space program. The scientists wanted to build wider fuel tanks, but since they were transported to the space centre by train, the tunnels could not not transport wide fuel tanks and so the size of the fuel tanks became small.

But what has all this got to do with marriage.

Just like the absurd measurement of the railway track, people or the societal norms decided that when two people get married they must frozen in a distance for time immemorial. Even if sometime one of you might want to move forward a little or want to get closer a little, this was against the rules made by the society. The rules which was drawn by the society was “ Think about your children, think about your family, think about what other people will say”. You cant change, you must be like two railway tracks that remain the same distance all the way from the start of the marriage and till one of the partners die. The rules don’t allow the love to change or to grow –it is too dangerous people say. And so after the enthusiastic first few years, we fall into the monotony of married life. Sam process, same monotony , day after day and year after year. Somehow your purpose in life is to maintain the distance of 143.5 cms throught your married life. It does not matter if  you are not happy with the arrangement, the distance can never be changed. Even though you might be unhappy, you have to think of the children you bought in this world, your parents, your neighbours, your friends, your social circle.

Think of your neighbours. Show them you are happy, eat good food, keep yourself up-to-date with the latest serials and help the community. Think of the society, dress in your Sunday best all the time , so that everyone knows what a perfect life you have. At the se times you cannot be seen looking sideways, because you are forever afraid on what people will think and this could bring in depression and temptation. This could mean disaster. Smile in all the photos. Put that photos in every room of the house. Update your facebook profile every day, change your wats app status, tweet your happiness and post happy quotes in Instagram. All this have become the measure for people to understand hpow happy your life is. Mow you lawn and do practice a sport because that’s what the society has determined as key performance indicators of your happy married life. Do every to show others how happy you are , but do not forget that the rules for happy married life was determined by the society many years ago and you are just following what has been prescribed to you. The rules have to be respected and followed just like the way distance between the railway tracks were determined by the Romans

The 5 truths of my life.

As the day reaches its end I find myself contemplating if I should tell about the truths I learned in my 48 years of life in this planet. The truth might sound bitter, but it has to be revealed to all if its going to help everyone. I am an achiever– good son, good husband , good father, good friend and compassionate human being.So here are the truths of my life.

Truth 1: It does not matter how you are in school or college whether you are a good student or a bad student, whether you are rich or poor, by the time you reach 48, your life becomes balanced. You are not doing worse than your genius friend. Life has a great way of balancing everything. If you are not doing decently well, then you would have done something really bad with your life.

Truth 2: All successes are based on the principle of persistence. Assignments given in school and college helps you prepare for the hard work needed for later life. All the inspirational stories of some one dropping out of the education system does not mention the amount of hard work they have done to achieve their success.

Truth 3 : Sex is not the only thing needed to have a good successful relationship. It is based on lot of give , take and letting go. Just like a baby who do not keep things to heart despite being spoken harsh words by a parent, it is important to just let go and look at the positive to maintain a relationship . Copulation will happen when it has to. Same cannot be the only reason to have a relationship.

Truth 4: Do not torture your body in your quest to be fit. Most of the so called fit people suffer when they reach old age. You are fit after 48, if there are no aches and pain in your body , if your knees does not hurt, if you can still shop with your wife and play with your children after a hard days work. So to hell with all fitness programs. Exercise 30 minutes, build some muscle and eat good food. You will be for life. Do not abuse your body with too much exercise, too much food, too much alchohol and too much diet.

Truth 5: Do not judge the ability of your children based on their academic performance and social interactions. Take a step back and look at how you were during those times. You achieved everything when you were given the freedom to do your own thing. You need to give the same freedom to your children.