Anger will burn inside you. Hatred pops its head up inside your brain. The biggest disappointment in ones life is when your friend betrays you. These were the thoughts I had in my mind when I was told by the Manager ( my friend) that I wont be getting promoted .I was really looking forward for this as I was in that zone of my life where everything was going on well. I was the best performer in my organization. Apart from performing individually, I used to help others achieve their goals. I was a mentor to all the new comers and everyone used to look up to me. I was even told by the Manager ( my friend) to start getting used to leading others permanently. And then when the date of confirmation arrived, I was told that I did not get the promotion. Instead a person who had lesser experience and younger in age was given charge.
I am sure this is something you have also faced at some time in your life. I would like to share what I did during those times which helped me to keep my sanity.
Lesson 1: Don’t quit your job in Anger. It’s okay to be angry and throw a tantrum. You are well within your rights to do so. It’s a natural reaction when you are expecting something and then don’t get it. But the most foolish thing to do will be quit your job in anger. That to me is one of the most foolish thing to do. The reason is that, unless and until you have already another job in hand, it’s pointless to leave the job just because one did not get promoted. So be angry , but don’t get emotional and quit. As a wise man once said” You get paid , even when you are angry in your current job”. So start the process of looking out for a job, but don’t quit.
Lesson 2: Don’t be angry at the new Boss. You can be angry at not getting the promotion, you always wanted, but don’t take out your anger on the New Boss. When I lost my job, the Colleague who was going to be my boss knew that I was the senior most person with more experience than him and he was scared too. But when he joined , I took him around the organization and introduced him to everyone. I also told him that I will support him. This would have surprised my colleague, but I am sure he would have been relieved to have me on his side rather than work against him. Please remember it’s important to treat the Boss as a human being. It was not his fault that you did not get the job in the first place.
Lesson 3: Take your anger out in your performance. It is important to get your mojo back after the disappointment. The best distraction to this is to channelize your inner anger towards giving your best at the job in hand. I did that in the month I did not get the promotion I desired. Again the new boss was happy as the organization performed well in the first month. Its important that you don’t try to work against the new Boss. Work with him and he will support you.
Lesson 4: Continue with your learning. It is important to channelize the disappointment in not getting promoted to better learning. You can always ask , what needs to be done. Work on the faults and improve on the knowledge you already have. Opportunities as always there in a organization. Its not the end of the world. You have to keep on learning and keep an eye open for new opportunities.
Lesson 5: Believe in Karma. So all the above 4 lessons which I learned from my disappointment helped me to stay in my current job. And the patience inside me, the way I treated my new Boss, The way I performed in my job despite the disappointment helped me get a double promotion within 1 year of loosing the opportunity to be a manager. As its said “ Keep up your efforts and the reward shall come”