If the Desire is Strong then Goals don’t remain as Dreams : My Story

If you have a goal which has been lingering your mind for many years, something which you constantly think about at every point of life, then the forces of nature will work in a way that the dream will get fulfilled. For the pull of your goal is so strong that you do things to achieve your goal. For if you don’t anything about the goal you want to achieve, it remains a dream , a dream which you can fondly reminisce in your later years with regret and  a thought that If only I had something about it when the thought came into my mind, I would have been more happier and achieved a lot in my life.

The above thoughts replicate what I did to achieve my goal to be a trainer and teacher. I had this desire to be one, when I attended a training course delivered by Steve Crowe from 3M Consultants. The course was about selling skills and I enjoyed attending the course. It was for the first time that I was feeling enthusiastic attending a course and had a great learning experience. I loved the way he kept the training interesting from me. Lot of activities and lot of practical examples which helped me to understand the concepts.

So the seed to becoming a trainer was put in my mind after attending that training. I wanted to be a trainer who would not just flick power point slides and have a target number of slides to go through before ending the day. I wanted to be someone who would bring a change in the thinking of the participant who would be attending the training program. So with that thought in mind, I spoke to my wife about this burning fire inside me to be a trainer. My wife calmly told me” Let’s wait for few years as we need the money to survive and settle our lives”. I was getting angry as I wanted to quit the job immediately and be a trainer. But after my anger subsided, I understood what she meant. Sometimes when you are excited, you don’t thing clearly. So instead of jumping in the valley without thinking, it is important to give the DREAM sometime and see if the desire is still there in your heart after the initial incubation period.

So even though I had put a brake in my desire to be a trainer, I came to an agreement with my wife that by the time I reach 40 years I will revisit my dream. And if the desire is really strong then I will take my plunge into the exciting world of Training and Teaching. I was 37 years at the time when the desire to be trainer started in my mind. Instead of waiting for the 3 years to be completed, I started reading a lot about training. I started looking at organizations who were   training providers. I also started improving my network and added lot of trainers in my circle of contacts. I started reaching out to training providers and conveyed them about my experience and my interest to be a trainer. Slowly and steadily my network improved and I started getting an idea as to what it takes to be a good trainer.

One of the first requirements to be a trainer was to have an experience of speaking in public. And that’s something I dreaded.  My earlier experience with public speaking was not good and I was classified as loud. OS in order to gain some experience in speaking, I joined the toast masters club. It was a great way of meeting people and getting a chance to speak in front of a crowd. Toastmasters is an organization which teaches public speaking and organizational skills. It is a place where you are given a topic to speak and the audience will give you feedback on how the speech was. The speaking time is not much, but the atmosphere is just fantastic to hone your skills. You get to speak about a number of topics and sometimes, you have to speak on topics with no preparation. And I was a selfish speaker. Whenever I got the opportunity to speak, I spoke. I was in the forefront of speaking as my sole aim was to gain speaking time or floor time as it’s called.

During that time, I was looking at opportunities to train people. So I grabbed whatever I could get. I distinctly remember my first experience of a non-paid training job. It was on short notice and I was excited to do the job. Another experience which stays in my mind is the one where I had to do a demo with a training company. They asked me to prepare on my favorite topic. So my  favourite topic was Selling  and I spent my time preparing for the demo training. I arrived on time and that’s when the interviewer told me that the projector is not working. I said to myself this happens and maybe I should have checked before going. Its said when disaster strikes, it keeps on striking. So to add to my woes, the power went off and my laptops battery also gave me a high five. So here I am with no supporting materials, but was determined to do my training as my main objective was to do the training and get some feedback. Luckily for me there was white board with marker pens available. So I did a enthusiastic presentation with the tools I had in hand. The training went on well but I did not get the job. But I was super thrilled that I could engage a audience for 1 hour.

As the days passed by, I continued with research. I was determined to be a trainer. That’s why its said “ When the desire is strong, the forces of nature will work for you”. The day I turned 40, I put in my resignation with a dream in my mind but no concrete plans. But the future had different plans for me. Suddenly out of the blue I receive a call from a organization “ Hi,You had a put in a CV a year back. We are interested in speaking to you”. I could not believe my ears. A year after I sent my CV, someone is calling and that too when my dream was just a dream. So I went and met the organization who was on the look out for a trainer and they asked me to observe a session done by a senior trainer. I was a keen observer and I made lot of notes during the session. The senior trainer then asked me to do the training for the next session. That’s how my journey as a trainer started. With no experience , but just a spark inside me to follow my dreams.

So my first real training , I spent lot of time preparing. I was at my super enthusiastic best. The senior trainer was there as an observer who was making notes to give me feedback. So at the training program , I got a shock. The participants had pooled in money and bought a Pen for me. I was in a state of shock. These participants wert out of their way, contributed money to buy me a pen. The senior trainer who was a observer was also in a state of shock. He told me that during the time when he had done the training, he had his picture taken, but never was he given a gift by the participants. I took that as a good omen for my future. So as things would turn out, I did 12 sessions for the company before I got another shock. The company who had rejected me came back with a offer. That’s how my career as a trainer began. Its been 6 years since I did my first training and its journey I am enjoying. Lots of ups and downs, but my soul is still intact and my life is full with the joys of sharing knowledge.

I feel truly blessed that my dreams came true with my hunger and help from the forces of nature.

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A 48 Year old enjoying life and its realizations. Away from Futile pursuit of happiness as per social norms and creating inner peace and happiness

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